coping with divorce

5 Great Ways To Cope With Divorce

June 21, 2017

The day your divorce is finalized may seem like a day to look forward to, but for many, the day is accompanied by confusion and uncertainty. Crafting your next stage in life may feel daunting, and coping with the challenges of a single life may seem impossible.

For one New York Times journalist, joining the New York surfing community was exactly what she needed to cope with her divorce. She found new friends, learned new skills, challenged her body, and discovered how to feel comfortable without her spouse:

While surfing may not be for everyone, here are 5 things you should consider when coping with divorce:

1. A New Lifestyle

Living your old life without your former spouse can highlight the loss of your relationship and perpetuate the pain of divorce.

Conversely, a new lifestyle can celebrate the person you are now.  

2. An Escape To a New Town

If your final divorce agreement or order does not impose any restrictions about where you or your children live, or to any economic responsibilities that tie you to a particular home or town, leaving your old town may help you escape from the old life that was bringing you down.

Reminders of your old lifestyle may be emotionally draining and prevent you from feeling like you are on to the next chapter, whereas moving to a new town can be the escape you need to find peace.

3. Reconnecting With Old Friends

Friends can lose touch over the years, and those friendships that were once a source of support before your marriage may become supports again.

Connecting with old friends can be a great way to reconnect with yourself and find out what you want out of the next phase of life, independent of your former spouse.

4. Get Comfortable Being By Yourself

Feeling lonely is one of the most common problems for a person going through a divorce, but being alone does not have to feel lonely.

Taking on activities (like surfing) that are solo tasks typically done in the company of others can help you become more comfortable being by yourself without feeling lonely.

5. A Sense of Community

A close community is like a family where people care about each other and support each other.

Feeling like you belong in a close community can ease some of the stresses of post-divorce life.


Everyone is different and a coping mechanism that works for one person, may not work for another.

Discovering a whole new life may not be possible for those with children, but finding a way to be the best version of yourself can happen in the most unexpected ways. Being open to new activities can do more for you than expected. Surf’s up!

Professional New Jersey Family & Divorce Attorneys

At Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, Trigg, O’Cathain & O’Cathain, LLC, our New Jersey family attorneys are experienced and are here to help you through this very difficult time. Contact us today for a legal consultation.