5 Tips on How to Survive Thanksgiving After Divorce
November 19, 2018
BY: Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O'Cathain & O'Cathain
How to plan Thanksgiving after divorce
Thanksgiving is a huge holiday in America. Typically, when you think of Thanksgiving, you imagine a beautifully decorated table with delicious food and all of your family gathered around. After a divorce, that image may no longer be your reality. Here are some tips on how to survive the Thanksgiving holiday post-divorce.
1. Make new traditions
In this time of transition, you will likely have to abandon some of your typical holiday plans. This may mean spending Thanksgiving without your ex and your ex’s family, or perhaps, even without your children. If your side of the family isn’t local and you can’t travel to celebrate with them, consider volunteering your time, or making the trek into New York City to watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade.
2. Celebrate on alternate days.
The Thanksgiving celebration does not have to be limited to one day. Celebrate with friends and family the week before or the day after and extend the celebration. Stay in and test out the new pumpkin pie recipe you always wanted to try, or go out for dinner so there’s no cleanup. Since you’ll be celebrating on a different day, the grocery store lines won’t be horrific, and restaurants will actually be open!
3. Don’t spread yourself too thin.
The holidays are a great time to socialize and catch up with people you have not spent time with in a while but don’t obligate yourself to hosting a large group at your home or cooking a lavish dinner if you don’t want to. Accept the invitations that you want, but don’t feel guilty when you decline something you’re not in the mood for. There’s a lot of pressure that comes with the holiday season, but if you’re not excited and happy, you’re not doing anyone any favors.
4. Spend some much-needed “Me” time.
Don’t feel like being around nosy family and friends asking too many questions about your personal life? Take a solo trip! Exploring a new place is a great way to take your mind off of what is going on back home, and you just might meet some interesting new characters. Remember, Thanksgiving is just a regular Thursday outside of the United States. If you can’t travel, watch a Thanksgiving-themed movie or TV special, or take advantage of those Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales. Pamper yourself by doing whatever you feel like doing. There are so many things to do during the holiday season, and now you can try them all!
5. Focus on the good and leave the bad stuff behind.
Celebrating Thanksgiving means celebrating all of the blessings in your life. Although you have closed one chapter, you have also begun a new one. Remember that, even though divorce is an end, it is also a new beginning. Think about everything that is to come and be grateful for everything in your past that has made you stronger. Make yourself and your growth as an individual a priority this Thanksgiving and let all the negativity fall away.