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6 Tips That Will Help You Survive Valentine’s Day

February 12, 2018
BY: Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O'Cathain & O'Cathain

Valentine’s Day is a polarizing holiday to say the least.  Some people love it and others loathe it.  Especially when going through a divorce (or recently having gone through one), Valentine’s Day can be one of those days you want to crawl into bed and not come out until February 15th.  Here are some tips on surviving Valentine’s Day:

1. Plan ahead

Whether you decide to spend the evening wrapped up in blankets on the couch watching your favorite romantic comedy or decide to paint the town red with your favorite single friends, decide early.  If you have set plans, it’s easier to decline invites that you don’t want to accept without having to put up much of a fight.  Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do on this holiday.

2. Don’t pay attention to everyone else

That co-worker you hate got a giant flower delivery?  Your ex is blowing up social media with photos of his or her new beau?  Don’t let that bring you down!  Your happiness isn’t tied to what anyone else is doing for this holiday, so don’t let them have that power over your emotions.

3. Meet new people

The good thing about Valentine’s Day is that there are a ton of singles events going on.  Try speed dating or group meet-up activities to keep things interesting and fun.  The best part about spending Valentine’s Day without a date is that there are a ton of other fun things going on that you can try out.

4. Spend quality time with your loved ones

Valentine’s Day isn’t just a celebration of romantic love.  It is meant to celebrate all kinds of love including love between family members and friends.  Take the time to do something special for the people you love in your life.

5. Treat yourself!

Sleep in.  Order your favorite cheat meal for dinner.  Buy yourself some chocolates.  Get some fresh flowers for your home.  Take the day off and play a round of golf.  Do whatever it is that makes you happy!  Whatever you do, do something that makes you feel good.  Even if you want to just sit at home and lay in bed, if it comforts you, go for it without any guilt.

6. Remember: You are not alone.

Anyone who has gone through a divorce has been there, and Valentine’s Day can trigger some very strong emotions and memories from happier times.  Some people consider divorce as a kind of death or loss, but it can also be the door to new beginnings.  Although it will take time to grieve and heal, there is light at the end of the tunnel.  Surround yourself with people you love and remember that this is only one day of the year!