Homemade Pumpkin Pie for Thanksigiving

Cutting Up The Pumpkin Pie

November 1, 2022
BY: Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O'Cathain & O'Cathain

Thanksgiving and Divorce 

By Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O’Cathain & O’Cathain, LLC 

If you’re anything like us, you can’t believe the year is winding down (two more months, or less). If you’re anything like us, you feel like the years are going faster and faster— especially once we hit Labor Day. And if you’re anything like us, you can’t believe it’s Thanksgiving— again. 

In fact, we write about Turkey Day every year on this blog (in 2021; in 2020; in 2019; in 2018), as it’s one of those perennial times of year that affect everyone, no matter their religion, their marital status, or even what they like to each (tofurkey, anyone?). 

This year we thought we’d write something a little different, as suggested by the title. This year the New Jersey divorce lawyers of Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O’Cathain & O’Cathain, LLC. thought it would be a good idea to ask how you cut up the pumpkin pie? 

To start with, if you’re separated or divorced, part of a blended family or a “Friendsgiving” family, with a partner, children and co-parent or flying solo this year, ask yourself this: Do I really want pumpkin pie? Is there another type of pie you might prefer? 

Yes, we do mean pie literally (if you’re hosting the family, it’s not a bad idea to have both pumpkin, apple, and sweet potato on-hand; why not offer something for everyone?), though we also, and more importantly, mean pie metaphorically. Ask yourself: is this the right combination of people to have over for the big meal? Are you forgetting someone to add to the guest list for the holiday afternoon (or weekend), or is there someone— an ex-spouse, a stepparent— well, that it would be better if they weren’t invited. 

For those attending, making sure you have the right type of pie on hand is shorthand for making sure they are comfortable; making sure they have everything they need to make their holiday a success. In other words, if there are things you can do or have on hand to comfort them or help them make their Thanksgiving a success, do the best you can to do it. 

If you have no control whatsoever over the holiday meal guest list (or if someone’s attending you simply can’t afford to not invite), to the extent that you can treat them with extra white glove service and remember your patience. If you’re the guest at the Thanksgiving meal and there’s a type of pie you particularly like, do the host a solid and bring it yourself! 

Now, to the literal and metaphorical cutting of the pie: be fair. Make sure, to the extent that everyone wants it, everyone has an equal size piece. If there are people who have taken the time to come to sit at your Thanksgiving table— a co-parent; a stepparent; a former in-law— whom you might think twice about, remember it’s Thanksgiving. Focus on what you’re grateful for, what you give thanks for them, your relationship, and their place in your life, and make sure you spend time with them. Be fair. Cut everyone a good sized slice of pie. 

If you’re divorced and/or co-parenting, your family deals with this every day. If you’re an American you usually celebrate Thanksgiving once a year. And like anything else in life, the holiday and the situations that surround it are what you make of it. It can be overly hard, or— well, we suppose it can be easy as pie. 

Wishing you a season of gratitude and thanks! 

Lesnevich Marzano-Lesnevich, O’Cathain & O’Cathain, LLC handles family law and matrimonial law matters through all holiday seasons. Please learn more at: www.lmllawyers.com or by giving us a call today!