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Enjoying Valentine’s Day Alone

January 20, 2022
BY: Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O'Cathain & O'Cathain

multiple red and white hearts Heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, bouquets of flowers, a greeting card… no matter your thinking of Valentine’s Day (whether you like it or loathe it), it can be a little different if you’re divorced or separated. We’ve written before on how to survive Valentine’s Day (read that blog post here), but after two-plus years of pandemic we’re suggesting, no matter your relationship, that you find a way to enjoy Valentine’s Day— even alone. Here are a few tips:

  • If your children will be with you that day, involve them. Whether it’s a homemade card or a single flower (it doesn’t have to be a rose) or a special meal you all cook together, Valentine’s Day can be a way of expressing love in the middle of cold February.
  • If your children will be with your co-parent (or you don’t have children), and you’re feeling up to it, consider online dating. Pouring yourself a glass of wine, swiping through photos and imaging future dates could be a fun way to spend Valentine’s Day… and who knows, you could wind up meeting someone special!
  • If you’re not feeling ready to reenter the dating world, pamper yourself. Whether this means takeout from your favorite restaurant, a special cocktail or mock-tail, or just a long soak in the tub with a good book, this is a day to be kind to yourself.
  • Here on this blog we all know we take our relationships with our pets seriously (we even have a blog post about pet custody). If you find yourself cooped up in the house, working remotely, alone on Valentine’s Day, remember: your cat or dog or even parakeet is there! Treat them to a special meal… they may not know why, but you will, and it’ll make you feel better.
  • If you have an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse, you may consider reaching out to say something nice to them. Even a simple text (you don’t have to use the word “love”) that mentions how much you appreciate them as a co-parent may go a long way in brightening their Valentine’s Day.
  • If you find yourself sad about your relationship status, reach out to a friend. Express love for your friend with a telephone call, a Zoom drink together, maybe a card in the mail… Valentine’s Day can be about letting your friends know how much you appreciate them.
  • Finally, if you really can’t find any way to enjoy Valentine’s Day on your own, get through it by fantasizing about what’s next. That might mean looking around online for your dream vacation, a new restaurant in your neighborhood, or even a couple of trailers for upcoming movies you want to see… give yourself something to look forward to, and just like that it will be February 15th!

Everyone at our firm wants you not only to survive Valentine’s Day, but to enjoy it. Remember, your current relationship status, no matter what it is, is not permanent, and a lot can change in one calendar year. So, break out the chocolate… Happy Valentine’s Day!

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