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Keeping Your Divorce as Low-Stress as Can Be

February 28, 2022
BY: Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O'Cathain & O'Cathain


Keeping Your Divorce as Low-Stress as Can Be

Divorce is only spoken about widely in American society in certain contexts. News outlets report on major studies concerning this subject and on celebrity divorces. Popular culture generally only refers to divorce as deeply traumatic or boldly empowering, without leaving much room for a middle ground. As a result of these limited approaches to the divorce process, many Americans are understandably surprised to learn about the different options at their disposal when it comes to navigating the legal aspects of a marital split. As mediation, attorney-led negotiation, and self-directed spousal agreements are almost never spoken about in our culture, it is little wonder that so many Americans assume that divorce necessitates a traditional “courtroom battle.”

In reality, and as an experienced divorce lawyer – including those who practice at Robinson & Hadeed – can confirm, couples have a profound amount of control concerning how their unique legal process will progress. Certainly, if the spouses involved in a split are unable to come to an agreement in re: property division and/or child custody, a judge will be required to settle these irreconcilable differences. However, if a couple is committed to keeping their divorce as low-stress, amicable, and cost-effective as possible, it is possible to come to an agreement about divorce settlement terms outside of a courtroom.

Identifying the Approach that Best Fits Your Needs

There are many ways to approach a non-contentious divorce process. If you and your spouse already have a strong sense of the divorce terms you’d like to agree to, you can draft up those terms and work with an attorney to formalize them. If you could benefit from discussing your differences with both your attorneys and a third-party neutral present, mediation might be a good way to go. If you’d rather have your attorneys do the “bulk of the talking,” an attorney-led negotiation scenario may work best. Many couples embrace a hybrid approach to non-contentious divorce, embracing two or more of these strategies during their broader process.

When you meet with an attorney in a risk-free consultation setting, they will ask you about your needs, goals, and priorities for your divorce. After learning about your unique situation, they can provide you with personalized guidance about which approach(es) might best suit your needs. Just because American society doesn’t talk about low-stress approaches to the legal side of the divorce process much doesn’t mean that these opportunities don’t exist.