Planning for the Future in Pandemic

Planning for the Future in Pandemic

February 24, 2021
BY: Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O'Cathain & O'Cathain

Planning for the Future in Pandemic

We celebrated the New Year— the calendar year flipped from 2020 to 2021— but it still feels an awful lot like last year, doesn’t it? We’re still in quarantine, and working from home; we’re still wearing masks when we do go out, and most of us are still waiting to be vaccinated.

So how do you plan for the future when the pandemic is ongoing? How do you plan for the future if you’re going through a divorce, or co-parenting when there’s a literal plague going on? You should consider talking with a divorce lawyer.

Here are three tips:

  • Be optimistic. Recently Dr. Anthony Fauci (the nation’s leading infectious disease expert; you know him by now) told The Harvard Gazette, “Let’s say we get 75 percent, 80 percent of the population vaccinated. If we do that, if we do it efficiently enough over the second quarter of 2021, by the time we get to the end of the summer, i.e., the third quarter, we may actually have enough herd immunity protecting our society that as we get to the end of 2021, we can approach very much some degree of normality that is close to where we were before.” Now, reading this blog post at the end of this year may not feel very optimistic, but it is. Make a plan now for outdoor activities this summer for your children. Make a plan now for a socially-distanced Fourth of July gathering. Giving children (and adults!) something to look forward to during this COVID winter will give everyone optimism.


  • Be flexible. Plans, co-parenting agreements, and even the stages of your divorce through the court system are going to change during this ongoing and unprecedented time. That socially-distanced playdate your child was looking forward to? Canceled— or switched to virtual. The Zoom conference with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse (though not soon enough!) and their lawyer? Postponed. Even the late-night ‘me-time’ glass of wine you promised yourself? You feel asleep. The point is, it’s okay— be flexible, and model this flexibility for your children. Shake it off and keep moving forward, confident an end to this pandemic is in sight.


  • Be grateful. Even if you’re in the midst of a divorce, financial hardship, or are suffering from an illness related to COVID-19 (or not), try to practice gratefulness. You’re here; you’re making it through another day. (And right now, that’s a lot.) Give yourself time in the day to be mindful of this, whether that means five minutes of breathing and mediation, or listening to your favorite song as you brew a cup of tea. Be grateful for where you are, and what you have— and tomorrow is a new day.

Are you considering divorce? Let´s talk about Divorce, our family law firm is here to help you move to the next chapter in your life. Our team of New Jersey family attorneys at Lesnevich, Marzano-Lesnevich, O’Cathain & O’Cathain, LLC are committed to helping our clients through the most difficult times.